How to not be awkward


Let’s face it, no one likes the process of having pictures taken of themselves, right?! For me, its always super awkward when someone is telling you how to pose and “tilt your head to the right and down a little bit!'“.

You want to look professional. You want to look cool. You want to stand out. At the same time you want to feel like yourself.

Well look no further, my fellow awkwards! I’m here to help put your mind at ease with a few helpful tips! Let’s get started!

  • Work with people you trust

Whether it’s someone you’ve known for years, or someone you’ve heard through the grapevine takes amazing photos. Your number one priority is trusting them. Not only trusting them with pictures, but with your feelings as well.

Once you can trust your photographer you’ll feel 100x better knowing you can tell them what to look for, what to avoid, and why. It makes our job easier when you feel more relaxed knowing your photos will come out exactly how you want them and feeling confident in yourself!

  • Plan plan plan. Purpose builds confidence.

Take time to sit down and figure out what you want, and don’t want. What’s going to make you stand out? What do you want to avoid? What do you want to capture about yourself that YOU love.

I’m OBSESSED with Pinterest! who isn’t?! It’s got everything!

With this being said, I recommend starting a “Photoshoot Inspiration” board on Pinterest to help you figure out your aesthetic and what you want to accomplish for your set!

Getting inspired helps build the vibe you want the photos to portray.

So plan that funky outfit girl, work that updo, and own that red lipstick you’ve been dying to wear. Again, purpose builds confidence!

  • Practice makes perfect.

I know this one is going to sound a little strange but it works! Get up and go stand in front of your mirror, now practice your expressions and poses. This will help your muscle memory on the big day and with that “How do you want me to look?” tension, I pinky promise.

Now I'm not saying you have to give me that big cheesy grin that your grandma always asks for at family gatherings as she snaps a picture of you with a disposable camera… we all have one of those right? Bless her heart, she means well. No, what I'm saying is practice calming your face, relax your jaw and eyebrows. Open and close your mouth. See how you look with your hands on your hips, arms crossed or sitting down.

One thing that always helps me is when I take a big inhale, and then exhale slowly as the photographer snaps your photo. This will relax your whole body and put you into a more comfortable position.


  • Dress to impress

In most of my shoots depending on the persons preference I will do 2-3 different outfits (casual, dressy) and a couple different hairstyles.

You'll notice in all my photoshoots I typically like the client to dress in neutrals ( tan, white, brown, deep burnt colors ). The only pop of color is either in jewelry, makeup, or shoes.

That’s so I can work your photos into my editing to give you the best quality photos possible!

BUT….yes, there’s a but. If you have that one bright funky dress that is your all time favorite thing to wear and you feel like a boss in it, bring it out girlfriend! I’m always down for some fashion shoots! Whatever makes you feel the most powerful, wear it!

  • Try to care a little less


Yes way Jose! You heard me right! Don’t sweat every. single. shot. Sure there will be a few duds, but often times those can be the best photos! Caught off guard, in your own element, acting like yourself with not a care in the world. Those moments create pure gold, baby!

In the end, it’s what you make of it! So try to relax, have fun, and SMILE!

XOXO, Hailey ( your fellow awkward )

Hailey Wilt